Embracing Self-Comparison and Curiosity: Insights from Jay Shetty and 'The Secret'

June 25, 2024

Yesterday, I reflected on two profound insights from Jay Shetty and a timeless lesson from 'The Secret.' These ideas resonated with me and offered valuable perspectives on self-comparison, curiosity, and taking the first step in faith.

The Ego vs. Self-Esteem in Comparison

Jay Shetty's insight struck a chord with me: “The ego compares yourself to others in your language and in your mind, while self-esteem compares yourself to yourself in your language and in your mind.”

This quote resonates because I used to constantly compare myself to others, which often led to feelings of frustration and ingratitude. When you compare yourself to someone else, especially someone the same age excelling in a field like basketball, it's easy to think, "Why can't I be like him?" or "Why can't I do what he can?" This mindset blinds you to your own progress and hard work.

What we often overlook is that the other person might be working just as hard, or they might have started their journey earlier, giving them a head start. However, if you focus on comparing yourself to your past self, you'll always find reasons to be grateful and happy. Looking back two to three months, you can see your own improvements, even if they're small.

The key is to change the angle of comparison. By setting aside your ego and focusing on self-esteem, you can appreciate your growth and achievements.

The Power of Curious Conversations

Another powerful lesson from Jay Shetty is: “Start scheduling curious conversations. Find people you're curious about, not just professionally. Notice the difference here! It’s not about wanting to close a deal or having a professional meeting. It’s about finding someone who genuinely sparks your curiosity. It could be a dot that someday might connect.”

This advice emphasizes the importance of curiosity-driven interactions. Rather than approaching conversations with a transactional mindset, seek out those who genuinely interest you. These conversations can lead to unexpected connections and opportunities, enriching both your personal and professional life.

Taking the First Step in Faith

From 'The Secret,' I noted this inspiring quote: “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

This timeless advice reminds us that embarking on any journey begins with a single step. You don't need to have the entire path figured out. Taking that initial step with faith can lead to unforeseen opportunities and growth.

Embracing Growth and Connection

Incorporating these insights into my life has been transformative. By focusing on self-comparison, I cultivate gratitude and recognize my progress. Scheduling curious conversations has opened doors to meaningful connections and new perspectives. And taking the first step in faith encourages me to move forward, even when the future seems uncertain.

As I continue my journey in real estate and storytelling, I aim to embody these lessons, fostering personal growth and inspiring others to do the same. By embracing self-esteem, curiosity, and faith, we can all achieve our goals and create a fulfilling life.